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Ponderings: Maternal mental health

Posted on: May 9th, 2018 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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Last week (the first week of May) was Maternal Mental Health week.  My social media newsfeed was full of all kinds of things raising awareness and offering support.  I’ve had a picture in my head for a while now about my own journey to motherhood, and it finally popped onto the page.

What I thought being a mum would be like part 1.  Just me, with a small human in my life.

What I thought being a mum would be like part  2 - a completely rebuilt and reprogrammed version of me with a cosmic maelstrom by my side

⭐ my motherhood journey⭐

It’s not that I thought it would be easy, and it’s a terrible cliche to say that nothing can prepare you for becoming a parent… but I think whatever your route to parenthood, it changes you in ways you cannot imagine.

And maybe in ways we’ll never understand.

Being pregnant in itself is such a transformation and perhaps I thought once Tris was born I’d go back to who I was before…

But I haven’t, and I can’t.

And that’s not a bad thing, it’s just a bit unsettling… here in the uk its #maternalmentalhealthawareness week and this was one of my #100daychallenge drawings for better mental health

Ponderings: One year of motherhood

Posted on: June 7th, 2017 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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Well, I can’t quite believe it, but yesterday we celebrated my son’s first birthday.  Words can’t really capture the intensity of this journey/rollercoaster/whatever cliche fits…it’s been simultaneously magical and terrifying, and I wouldn’t’ change a thing 🙂

We have learnt so much, lost so much sleep, laughed a huge amount and it just feels like the biggest privilege to watch a human grow.

We enter the world so helpless compared to other animals (like those foals that are up and about so quickly after birth) but my goodness, those giant human baby heads are filled with brains that just have the most incredible potential for growth and change.  It amazes me to think that my tiny son, who is on the cusp of getting the hang of speech and walking, will one day be able to drive a car…and it amazes me that this is how we all started.  It’s also made me realise how much we take for granted the things that many of us can do – things like eating, drinking, movement, speech – these are all really complicated, they take ages to learn and it’s really not surprising that they can go wrong and any of us could lose those abilities.  I’ve become so much more conscious of what it means to be human, and how adaptable, clever and vulnerable we are…

Tristan was born on a New Moon, 17 days after his due date. It’s another cliche to say that my partner and I were reborn at the same time, but it’s absolutely true.

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papa moon by Sam Goodlet - www.samdrawsthings.comI am still working on some illustrations inspired by the things I’ve found about birth and breastfeeding along the way, but in the meantime I wanted to share this gorgeous comic by Molly McIntyre which beautifully captures some of the issues breastfeeding – do go check it out on the Everyday Feminism site.

 

 

Dive Down: Dancing like a crazy person to feel more sane…

Posted on: September 11th, 2015 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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It’s 2001, I think.  I’m in one of the few nightclubs in Falmouth, where I am at uni.  Friends have brought me here, slightly under protest.

I don’t dance.

I’m in my early twenties at this point, and apart from the occasional wiggle or headbang, I haven’t really danced and meant it since the school disco at primary school.  I am way too self conscious; I simply don’t know what to do and worry about looking like a fool.

My friends seem to be having fun though, and I feel reasonably happy watching them.

Then, Paul breaks away from dancing with his girlfriend Cathy and our friend Jodie to where I am lurking at the edge of the dance floor. I wish I could remember what track was playing.  With a glint in his eye and a huge smile, he dances like a complete weirdo in front of me.  There are a lot of pelvic thrusts, hip wiggles, and terrible moves.  Just terrible.  He is relentless, completely silly, has no care for how cool he looks and I am laughing my head off.  He leads me onto the floor to come and join my friends, and something in me changed forever.  I found my dance!

I am forever grateful to Paul for helping me break free of worrying what I look like when I dance.

I don’t dance for you.  I don’t do it for anyone who might be watching.  I do it because it feels really fun and once the music catches me, I can’t help it.  It’s purely about me being in my body.

One of the incredibly therapeutic practices I’ve discovered in this last year whilst creating Dive Down takes that liberated feeling to a whole other level.  Five Rhythms Dancing is a movement started by Gabrielle Roth, and she’s written a book about it, the title of which sums up the idea perfectly: Sweat Your PrayersYou can find out more at the Five Rhythms website here. There’s a reference to dancing at the end of the Dive Down story – it’s a key tool in my de-stressing toolbox.

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Five Rhythm groups operate all over the place, and I thoroughly recommend giving it a go.  It’s terrifying, fun, liberating, therapeutic moving meditation.  There is no right or wrong, and you are gently guided through five ‘waves’ of different types of movement, building up to a crescendo of complete letting go in the middle and calming back down again.  In my experience, the other people in the room are incredibly sympathetic and kind, especially to new faces.

Not only has going to the sessions been amazing, I’ve had quite a few of my own moments at home, dancing around like a loon to release stress, anger, sadness, self doubt… all kinds of less than positive feelings that I’ve been able to kick into touch by moving my body.  Nights out that involve dancing have also become little therapy sessions; a chance to let go.

I am so, so grateful to you Paul, and to everyone who has danced with me since.

Have a look at my inspirational YouTube playlist of amazing dance moves here 🙂

You can download a free PDF of Dive Down: Drawings from the Deep here:

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Dive Down: Drawings from the Deep launch

Posted on: June 21st, 2015 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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Happy summer solstice!  I’m launching a new project that I am really excited about…

Dive Down: Drawings from the Deep is a very personal story.  I drew my way out of a difficult time and the drawings evolved into a book, which I am sharing to help and inspire others.

Today I start serialising the story via social media, with exciting plans coming up for other ways to share the book in physical and digital form.

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You can find out more on the Dive Down project page here.

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Based partly on Buddhist principles, Dive Down is a story about deep sea diving into the internal sea of our fears and anxieties – somewhere we tend to not want to look.  Through reading lots of books and meditating, I noticed where I was trying to move away from things that hurt me – distracting myself, hoping for something to make me feel better, when really it was that endless searching was the causing me the most pain.

The project became a collaboration between two Sams – Sam Attenborough, a mentor and co-founder of Birdsong Charity Consulting added the words after the visual story was complete.

With a list of resources for further support included at the end of the tale and an inspiring Spotify playlist to accompany the book, we intend for Dive Down to be enjoyed by a range of people and shared further, to encourage other deep sea divers find their courage, take a deep breath, and dive into their own oceans to find calmness.

Follow me on Instagram, Tumblr, Facebook or Google+ and watch out for a picture a day, followed by some special announcements and news about where the project is going next and how you can get involved.

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