Posts Tagged ‘maternal mental health’

Ponderings: Having a virtual tea party

Posted on: June 20th, 2018 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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I was pondering the other day why I am finding Instagram such an interesting place to be at the moment, and realised one of the factors is the stories it brings into my life.  Mainstream media has so often tells stories with a narrow focus  – heterosexual love stories featuring men and women who fit acceptable archetypes.  And I’m bored of that now.  It’s not relevant and  there are just so many stories and characters missing.

But on Insta, I am following a wide and diverse range of individuals bringing their stories into my life.  People with different gender roles and identities, abilities and cultural backgrounds that have so often been missing, or made the focus of stories in a way that emphasises difference and exclusion.  And they are telling their own stories in their own voices, sharing their fears, scars, problems and bodies.  (That last one feels particularly important to me right now, as I grow older and try to feel more comfortable in my post-baby body).

I know that ‘social’ media has its own problems (not least the trolling and negative comments that bravery can attract), but the fact that the platform enables sharing and alternative narratives feels like such a good antidote to that narrow focus.   June is LGBTQ+ pride month and I’ve discovered some really educational and inspirational accounts as a result.

And the other factor is that I’m finding genuinely lovely connections on there, mostly thanks to the amazing Flower Power Fund.  I have never met such a kind and invested bunch of people – the community around this project is simply magical.

The other day I was feeling a bit wobbly and posted a something that was a bit more honest post that I have for a while about where my head was at, and also a bit of a plea…

The comments and support were so lovely!

Working from home and being freelance and being a mum can feel pretty isolating.  A couple of local friends reached out and we might actually manage to meet up for real cake, but it also turned into a little virtual tea party with lots of support and imaginary cake….

Ponderings: Maternal mental health

Posted on: May 9th, 2018 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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Last week (the first week of May) was Maternal Mental Health week.  My social media newsfeed was full of all kinds of things raising awareness and offering support.  I’ve had a picture in my head for a while now about my own journey to motherhood, and it finally popped onto the page.

What I thought being a mum would be like part 1.  Just me, with a small human in my life.

What I thought being a mum would be like part  2 - a completely rebuilt and reprogrammed version of me with a cosmic maelstrom by my side

⭐ my motherhood journey⭐

It’s not that I thought it would be easy, and it’s a terrible cliche to say that nothing can prepare you for becoming a parent… but I think whatever your route to parenthood, it changes you in ways you cannot imagine.

And maybe in ways we’ll never understand.

Being pregnant in itself is such a transformation and perhaps I thought once Tris was born I’d go back to who I was before…

But I haven’t, and I can’t.

And that’s not a bad thing, it’s just a bit unsettling… here in the uk its #maternalmentalhealthawareness week and this was one of my #100daychallenge drawings for better mental health

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