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Ponderings: What becomes of the broken hearted

Posted on: May 3rd, 2017 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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A new project has started taking shape.  I’m not sure where it’s going yet, but there’s something lovely gathering momentum.

I am asking people for the advice, tips, songs and quotes to help those moving through heartbreak and the end of a relationship.  After creating a few illustrations about love a while ago, I felt called to do some more drawings that aim to help in difficult times, something that signposts people to positive, helpful and inspiring resources and organisations, and shares common experiences.  It might turn into a book like Dive Down

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Some of my followers have already shared some gorgeous comments and messages and I would love your thoughts too.

What songs, quotes, poems, websites, films, books helped you to heal and inspired you to keep going when things were tough after a break up?

Is closure something someone else can give you, or is it something you have to find yourself?

Do you have any tips for heartbreak insomnia (which is a thing even if that’s not quite the right name for it)?

What did you learn?

You can comment below, contact me via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Tumblr or here

I can’t wait to hear from you.

P.S.  I’m not personally heartbroken right now, but I have navigated my share of break ups and know that it’s hard and horrible, and also that healing is possible



Ponderings: The Marriage Bubble

Posted on: March 10th, 2015 by samdrawsthings No Comments


The Marriage Bubble is a diagram I’ve done as a wedding present for a few friends or drawn in their book of messages on their special day.

I found it a particularly helpful idea to hold in my head in that weird come-down period after the wedding and honeymoon at the beginning of a marriage….  It’s a strange time in part because it’s where the fairy stories end: ‘And they all lived happily ever after…’ is the conclusion of one part of the story, but the beginning of a whole other chapter that we don’t really create that many stories about.

The come-down feeling may also be because of all the effort, energy and excitement that goes into the wedding day – the one day when you are The Bride or The Groom following which the words Wife and Husband settle onto your shoulders.

I think it’s important (in any relationship) to keep an eye on personal stress and anxieties vs relationship based ones – personal stress comes under the heading My Stuff to Sort Out as opposed to Our Stuff to Sort Out Together.  It’s all about not taking Your Stuff out on the other person in the bubble.

Of course, a key thing to remember about bubbles is that they are very fragile…




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