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#ToonMe

Posted on: January 30th, 2020 by samdrawsthings No Comments

I had to join the #ToonMe challenge! Have you seen all the amazing art work on Instagram…? Have a peek here!

Toon Me by illustrator Sam Goodlet - www.samdrawsthings.co.uk

Drawing it was a really lovely way to tune into my inner magic and bring it out!  I posted it on Instagram with a message for my fellow weirdos:

 

I see you 👀 Your beautiful weirdness, your unique magic.
I know it’s hard sometimes to be yourself and to let yourself shine. Maybe it’s because you haven’t figured out who you are just yet, or you’re immobilised by worrying about what people might think, or because you’ve been bullied or suppressed by people pushing you back when your magic makes them afraid.
I just want you to know…It won’t always be this hard.
You and I and the world… we are all constantly growing and evolving.
We can make more space for ourselves and each other to be the wonderful weirdos that we truly are. Let’s embrace that precious magic in our unique human-ness and let it SHINE 🌟

 

 

 

How can we keep the cosy vibes going after Christmas…?

Posted on: December 18th, 2019 by samdrawsthings No Comments

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I find winter hard.  I’ve written on my Instagram about how much I prefer Halloween to Christmas…. although this year does feel easier.  My mental health is much better, AND I’ve created the HiberNATION to celebrate the cosy, dark vibes of this time of year.  So I’m feeling a lot more chilled out about the Christmas part of winter (you can read about the Christmas I stayed in bed and ate pizza here!), but I’m wondering how we can create some intentional rituals to fight off the post-Christmas blues….

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Christmas day comes so close to Solstice; here in the UK it’s bang in the middle of the darkest time.  We’re celebrating the returning of the light.  But it’s a slooooow return, and still a way to go before hibernation time is over.

Once the decorations come down on Twelfth Night, it can feel kind of bleak, can’t it? We been collecting and doing things that helps us survive the winter and lift our spirits – pretty lights, evergreens, socialising, exchanging gifts, eating comfort food – and then at New Year BAM! We give them all up again, even though there’s a lot of winter left.  Astrologically, Solstice marks the START of winter!

I used to work with a lovely lady called Mel, who would countdown to Valentines Day, because from that point she knew she could pretty much always drive home from work at 5.30pm without her headlights on.  It’s a nice measure of when the evenings begin to get lighter again.

So, what can we do to look after ourselves and each other as we wait for the light to come back…?  Here are some ideas:

  1.  January Decorations! Apparently, the tradition of taking the Christmas decorations down to avoid bad luck is a Pagan one, linked to the evergreens and their foliage – you could deck the halls, but you had to get them back outside by the 6th of January or the tree spirits would start to get antsy.  So last year we made sure we got the tree outside, then kept some of the fairy lights, and jiggled around some of the not-to-festive decorations.  It definitely helped the house to feel warm and welcoming.  Other years, I have purposefully made January decorations to replace the Christmas ones, to brighten the place up and celebrate the New Year.
  2. Join the HiberNATION.  Recognise that it is still winter, all the things that helped us before Christmas ARE STILL ALLOWED!  Pyjamas, chocolate, snuggling, catching up with friends, bingeing on box sets, knitting and/or wearing all the warm knitted stuff… keep making time for the cosy things that nurture your heart and soul.  This is the best time of year to enjoy this stuff!  You don’t have to stop just cos it’s not December any more 🙂
  3. Look for the beauty.  Right now, my garden is a muddy quagmire.  Every time the dog comes in, we gain some indoor mud too.  Sometimes I have to search out the beauty of this time of year.  But it’s there.  The resting quiet, like the pause in between breaths.  The silhouettes of trees against pastel winter skies.  Ice, frost and snow.  And then slowly, the tiny signs that start to creep in of returning life and noise, like snowdrops and little shoots of green bursting up from the mud…
  4. Do some reflecting and look to the future.  I’m not one for full-on, high-pressure New Years Resolutions, but there is a ton of advice out there about setting intentions or themes for the year.  This year I think I will do a little bit of journalling to reflect back on the previous year, create a list of things to look forward to in the next year, and list some of the qualities I’d like to call in to my life for 2020.  (If you need some help, my friend Alice is doing a mini-course that could be just the thing!).
  5. Allow your feelings.  Winter is by nature a darker time, for slowing down, reflecting and planting seeds.  You don’t have to be ‘jolly’.  It’s ok to feel whatever you feel.   I think we can sometimes make things harder for ourselves if we fight what we truly feel.  I’m working on welcoming my emotions and seeing what they are here to tell me. And a lot of the time in winter, they’re saying ‘go slow, be gentle, plant seeds.’

And, as ever, allow time for self care 🙂

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⭐️message from the Comfort Fairy⭐️ . Step up your self care. . I’m learning about leaning in to opposites. Gently breaking my behaviour patterns by doing the opposite of what I use to do. The times when I have the most to do and that ‘busy busy busy’ vibe is ramping up are the times I need to claim some of that time for me. . The times when I am giving the most are the times I need to up my self care. . The times when I feel the most triggered and anxious and flighty are the times I need to slow down, feel and breathe rather than rush and run. . And it’s strangely hard; it’s like my inner martyr just kicks in and is ready to take the world on her shoulders until she breaks. But what’s the point of that?! Who can I help if I’m in a puddle on the floor? . I’ve been that puddle more times than I care to admit. It’s been a pattern for me; the hurtling followed by the crashing. . So I’m learning this new way to navigate. . I’m here to serve, I’m here to help. My calling to magicalise is powerful and exciting. But I’m remembering I can’t serve anyone from the puddle! . . . . . . . #ComfortFairy #StepUpYourSelfCare #SelfLove #MentalHealth #Recovery #FairyDog #FaeriesOfInstagram #Faeries

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Show up and shine

Posted on: September 25th, 2019 by samdrawsthings No Comments

What would you do today if you weren’t feeling self conscious…? How would things be different if you weren’t worried about how you looked or came across? What would it be like if you just KNEW that your story was important and people needed to hear it? Can you imagine how it would feel if you just trusted that your friends (real or virtual) genuinely wanted to hear from you, see your face, or share in the beautiful thing you’ve just created…?

The thing is, they do!

What gets in our way is our own fear and worry.

And I’m done with it. I’m so tired of getting in my own way all the time! I want to be here, to show up and ⭐️SHINE⭐️ and I want to help you to do the same.

There are some wonderful people that I am super inspired by at the moment who are just so sparkly. And I know that the fear is still there for them. But they are showing up anyway and oh how I love them for it 😍

If you need some inspiration too, go and check out:

@sugarandsloth to meet Anita, queen of feeling the fear and doing it anyway, creator of cute and sweary things

@through_this_iris and meet Shiráz, traveller of the world, photographer extraordinaire and mental health warrior

@hedgerowyarns and meet Jane, classiest lady on my feed with the most beautiful photos and fabulous small business

And if you’d like a bit of help stepping up and shining, I’ve got a new little Facebook group called Show up and Shine.

It’s got me as your cheerleader and signposter to useful things that help with social media and other places you can show up, and it’s growing into a sweet and supportive little community.  I’d love you to come and join us 🙂

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What would you do today if you weren’t feeling self conscious…? How would things be different if you weren’t worried about how you looked or came across? What would it be like if you just KNEW that your story was important and people needed to hear it? Can you imagine how it would feel if you just trusted that your friends (real or virtual) genuinely wanted to hear from you, see your face, or share in the beautiful thing you’ve just created…? . The thing is, they do! . What gets in our way is our own fear and worry. . And I’m done with it. I’m so tired of getting in my own way all the time! I want to be here, to show up and ⭐️SHINE⭐️ and I want to help you to do the same. . There are some wonderful people that I am super inspired by at the moment who are just so sparkly. And I know that the fear is still there for them. But they are showing up anyway and oh how I love them for it 😍 . If you need some inspiration too, go and check out: . @sugarandsloth to meet Anita, queen of feeling the fear and doing it anyway, creator of cute and sweary things . @through_this_iris and meet Shiráz, traveller of the world, photographer extraordinaire and mental health warrior . @hedgerowyarns and meet Jane, classiest lady on my feed with the most beautiful photos and fabulous small business . Who are you inspired by? 💭 . And if you need a bit of cheerleading today to help you kick fear in the bottom, leave a comment below and I’ll give you a boost as some #MondayMotivation! . . . . . . . . . . . .#ShowUpAndShine #ShineYourLight #BeBrave #ShowUp #FeelTheFearAndDoItAnyway #YourStoryMatters #ShareYourWork #CreativeLife #SocialAnxiety #MentalHealthMatters #YouCanDoIt

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The Christmas I stayed in bed and ate pizza

Posted on: December 20th, 2017 by samdrawsthings 2 Comments

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Pondering Christmas with the help of the Comfort Fairy

I have a little pattern of thoughts on loop at the moment that goes a bit like this…

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year…”

No it isn’t.

“‘Tis the season to be jolly…”

No it isn’t.

Because, for me, winter isn’t this magical season full of jolliness and cheer. It’s the opposite. I live in the UK so…It’s dark. Grey. Cold. Wet. Bleak.

And I struggle sometimes to be festive.

Three years ago was particularly rough – I’d been through a break up, was living with my (very kind) brother and his girlfriend having left my home, and my dog was living with my (very patient) parents. Although I was in a good place in some ways, as Christmas approached I just felt sick. After talking to a couple of friends who never really ‘do’ Christmas, I opted out of all festivities, walked the dog, cried a lot and ate pizza. It was a tough day but I know it could’ve been worse. And opting out was what I felt I needed to do to cope that year; it needed to just be another day.

A realisation dawned on me as I thought about that year and everyone going through tough Christmases this year…

Winter is hard. Just plain difficult regardless of what might be going on in your life at the time.

Our systems are often run down, we’re not getting enough vitamin D, it feels like the sun has abandoned us and then we add in this sudden intense pressure to do Christmas Things in a particular way (be jolly, spend all the money, buy perfect presents for everyone, see family, overeat)…and that can just feel like too much.

But then I remembered…

We invented Mid-winter celebrations like Christmas because winter is hard.

The Christians were wise to move Christmas to match the pagan calendar to convert the Northern Hemisphere.  We need a celebration to mark the coming of the sun, as the nights stop lengthening and the days start lengthening instead. We need things like candles and warm food, evergreens, fires, companionship, compassion and sharing.

It’s not meant to be an extra stress or pressure; we didn’t invent it to make ourselves feel crap (there’s a whole host of reasons why it might have become that), but in its honest heart, it’s the opposite.

A time to take a breath. To recognise the darkness and that we are in its heaviest time. To find the light wherever we can. To be a light for others when we can.

And even though this year I’m feeling quite excited about Christmas, having those thoughts set me free.

It helped me to see that when I do struggle to feel happy and festive, that’s ok. If I don’t manage to send cards to everyone who sends me one, it’s alright.  If I can’t get my act together to give gifts, that’s ok too.  If I need to opt out, to reshape Christmas to suit where I am at the time, that’s do-able.

This year, I’m sending Christmas-time cards because I’ve missed the post.  And that’s ok.

So whatever the last year has brought you, in whatever position you find yourself in at Christmas; the biggest gift is to be gentle with yourself.

If we can remember that at the heart of these winter holidays is the idea of bringing light to the darkness, we might behave quite differently.  If you’re feeling dark and the fairy lights of Christmas are only making things gloomier, it’s ok to turn them off.

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