I was pondering the other day why I am finding Instagram such an interesting place to be at the moment, and realised one of the factors is the stories it brings into my life. Mainstream media has so often tells stories with a narrow focus – heterosexual love stories featuring men and women who fit acceptable archetypes. And I’m bored of that now. It’s not relevant and there are just so many stories and characters missing.
But on Insta, I am following a wide and diverse range of individuals bringing their stories into my life. People with different gender roles and identities, abilities and cultural backgrounds that have so often been missing, or made the focus of stories in a way that emphasises difference and exclusion. And they are telling their own stories in their own voices, sharing their fears, scars, problems and bodies. (That last one feels particularly important to me right now, as I grow older and try to feel more comfortable in my post-baby body).
I know that ‘social’ media has its own problems (not least the trolling and negative comments that bravery can attract), but the fact that the platform enables sharing and alternative narratives feels like such a good antidote to that narrow focus. June is LGBTQ+ pride month and I’ve discovered some really educational and inspirational accounts as a result.
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Happy Pride Month 🌈 from the Comfort Fairy and I 🧚♀️ 🐕 We are always proud of you, however you identify or if you’re not sure yet. This month is a celebration of the progress that’s been made but also a reminder that protest is still needed, that bravery is still necessary, that not everyone feels safe all the time to be themselves and love who they love. Let’s keep loving, let’s keep striving, let’s keep standing together and challenging prejudice 🌈 #ally #lgbtpridemonth #rainbow #loveislove #noprejudice #lgbtpride
And the other factor is that I’m finding genuinely lovely connections on there, mostly thanks to the amazing Flower Power Fund. I have never met such a kind and invested bunch of people – the community around this project is simply magical.
The other day I was feeling a bit wobbly and posted a something that was a bit more honest post that I have for a while about where my head was at, and also a bit of a plea…
The comments and support were so lovely!
Working from home and being freelance and being a mum can feel pretty isolating. A couple of local friends reached out and we might actually manage to meet up for real cake, but it also turned into a little virtual tea party with lots of support and imaginary cake….
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Aw thank you so much to all the lovely people who shared virtual cake with me yesterday! 🍰 You’re all lovely Comfort Fairies! I was having a bit of a wobble but I feel much better today. It’s amazing how you can get caught in a downward spiral sometimes with your thoughts… I know on some level I’m choosing that and am in control really, but then I forget again… and then remember 🐘 #comfortfairy #bettermentalhealth #yourealllovely #thankyou #virtualcake